All Hail The Two Year Marriage Contract?

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Once a tradition, early marriage is now considered old-fashioned due to the ever-changing trends, and specifically because young couples are not as willing to wed until they are well established in their lives. Considering the improvements that have been made on all aspects of nowadays society and lifestyle, the change is understandable – or not? Our children have been educated to be mindful of their choices, and always put in balance every aspect concerning a decision they have to make. As such, jumping directly to marriage is rarely a choice they willingly make, which leads us to the question: is marriage dead?

 


In today’s world, more than half married couples get divorced due to several causes, which are often-times incompatibility between partners, financial issues and infidelity. While infidelity was very common many centuries ago, financial issues and incompatibility between partners have rarely been a cause of separation. This is due to our society’s evolution and advancements made in human psychology by popular psychoanalysts such as Freud, who has laid out several theories pertaining our sexual behaviours and other psychological matters that concern the relationships between women and men.

 


Several years ago, marriage was convenient for most individuals, especially because one of the partners was wealthy enough to make the other’s life simpler and definitely less stressful. As such, infidelity was overlooked, and incompatibility between partners was not considered an issue. Nowadays, individuals are willing to establish themselves and build a successful career before getting married. The goal is obvious: achieving financial security to avoid building a relationship based on dependence on the other partner’s financial situation. But is this wrong? Is this the reason why individuals are not that willing to wed early?

 


We need to accept that our society has suffered dramatic changes over the past century. As such, marriage has become a lifelong commitment that is based on equity, requiring both partners to showcase morality in those situations where it was in-existent a couple of centuries ago. An article written by Jessica Bennett and published in TIME Magazine suggested adopting beta marriages; in 2011, Mexico City proposed a law that supported two-year renewable marriage contracts. In both situations, partners would have to get married for a limited amount of time as stipulated in the contract, but once it expires, they have the right to choose whether they want to renew it. Renewing a marriage contract every two years seems convenient for many of us, especially since we would not have to go through filing for divorce. Now, many couples in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s will say that this is not how marriage is supposed to be, but only because they had no option other than getting married early.

 


Let’s move on to the marriage tradition itself, and how it was considered over a century ago. Young girls were getting married to much older men. They were taught to be good housewives, and have knowledge in basic household duties, such as sewing, house cleaning, gardening and cooking. They were not encouraged to go to school and have a stable income, and they were forced to depend on their spouse’s earnings, regardless of what that meant. Boys were often-times inheriting family businesses, such as inns and bars, and they were taught to marry only those girls who were very good at housekeeping. But most importantly, they were taught to be disrespectful to them, and take advantages of opportunities if they showed up.

 


Let’s draw a parallel to the present time now. Young girls are educated to be decent, moral and smart, to earn their own income and never pay attention to boys, or relationships with boys. They are taught to pursue brilliant careers as businesswomen or doctors, and never be controlled by their spouses. Boys are taught to be smart, although their immorality is slightly encouraged unwillingly. Truth be told, making mindful decisions does not truly impact marriage, because equity can be now supported as both partners can have a good income and full access to information – a precious tool that can help them better understand human behaviours, objectives and reactions.

 


Therefore, marriage is not dead – it has only suffered a couple of improvements that can actually make the most of people’s relationships and long-term commitments. It’s been said that it’s better to be safe than sorry – and that is true, if we consider how many families have been separated due to partners’ incompatibility as a result of ‘express’ marriage. Let them think about their choice, and let them feel ready to get married – this is many psychologists’ advice in the given situation.

 

 

 

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