Break Up Songs..Should We Let Sad Songs Make Us Cry?

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The reason some of us feel the need to wallow in sadness when our hearts are breaking is multi-faceted. It can be that we don’t  know how to put our emotions into words and some of us have trouble knowing how to recognise or categorise our fragmented feelings. The need to acknowledge, label and file our emotions is strong. It is part of the painful process we have to go through in order to heal. Songs can and do resonate with our mental state.

“Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent”
Victor Hugo


Emotions are not a force to do battle with! There is no good or healthy reason to try to deny, rationalise or beat yourself up over them. They are part of the human condition. They are what they are! Make no apologies for them! Just let them take their course and do what you can to go with the ebb and flow of the tide of emotions and be carried by them. If you try to resist and dig your heels in, well you could go under!


If listening to sad songs has you feeling pangs of pain, shedding tears or out and out pulls you apart; accept that this is cathartic and could be exactly what you need in order to regain clarity and strength. In your own time you will feel more positive and there will be fewer sad days. This is when you should start to help yourself come alive again. Get those happy songs out and let the beauty of music remind you that things will always get better in time.


Grab yourself a copy of  Songs To Make You Feel Good or What A Feeling. Turn it up. Dance like a maniac and celebrate being the stronger person you have become because you have pulled yourself through the seemingly endless dark days and survived an emotional battering. You may have broken up but you didn’t break, and that is something to celebrate!

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My top 10 break up songs


Best ‘Sad/Break Up Song’ Albums – Be warned these will seriously get the tears flowing!    sad clip art


The Very Best of Sad Songs

All Time Classic Tear Jerkers

Missing You


My Top 10 Get Over Him/Her Songs   Singing clipart

  • So What- Pink
  • Fighter- Christina Aguilera
  • Shut Up- Black-Eyed-Peas
  • Irreplaceable- Beyonce
  • Better In Time- Leona Lewis
  • Since You Been Gone- Kelly Clarkson
  • Goodbye- Kristinia DeBarge
  • Forget you- Cee Lo Green
  • Single Ladies- Beyonce
  • Cry Me Out- Pixie Lott

Best ‘Happy Songs’ Albums


Happy Songs

What A Feeling

Songs To Make You Feel Good


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A fascinating book about how sad music actually makes us happy is This Will End in Tears: The Miserabilist Guide to Music which includes an A-Z list of entries of the masters of melancholy (from Samuel Barber to Patsy Cline, George Jone to Joy Division, Nico to Hank Williams), a top-100 list of the saddest songs of all time, essays explaining the power of particular songs and artists, and essays explaining particular types of sad music and their effects on the listener. There are  also  recommended playlists throughout.

Kindle edition £6.55 from Amazon


“Music is the shorthand of emotion”
Leo Tolstoy




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