How to handle the first date, and beyond

So what is the correct dating etiquette for that first date, and beyond?



If you are heading out on a date then it is understandable that you want it to go as smoothly as possibly. Sadly though, there are plenty of people out there who completely mess up their dates because they don’t bear in mind the very basic rules of dating etiquette. In this article I am going to share with you the GOLDEN rules of a successful date. Stick to these rules and you will find that your date goes incredibly smoothly, and you have instantly increased your chances of a fabulous second date. So without further ado, lets jump in.


One of the things which seems to get missed off a lot of dating etiquette lists is without a doubt one of the most important. This is do not drink too much. It doesn’t matter whether you are male or female, it just isn’t sexy! Hopefully you should already know your limits. However, if you feel that you are feeling slightly drunk, or perhaps saying things that you wouldn’t normally say then you should cut back. Honestly, your date isn’t going to judge you if you decide to opt for soft drinks, in fact, they will probably respect you much more.


Are you planning the date? If so, then it is your responsibility to take care of the date arrangements. This means planning exactly what you want to do on the date. Sure, on later dates you can both have a helping hand in the planning, but certainly not the first. Remember, choose something that is fun for the first date as this is going to reflect on your personality.


Punctuality is absolutely vital for your date. Sure, you can turn up a couple of minutes late, but unless you have a VERY good excuse then anything over 15 minutes is a complete no-no. If you do think that you are going to be late and have a genuine excuse then make sure you give your date a call as far in advance as possible to let them know that your plans have been slightly hampered.


What happens if that phone rings? Well, you don’t answer it. Honestly, this is one of the best ways to put your partner off on a first date. If the phone call is important then the person will leave a message on your phone. If the phone doesn’t stop ringing then please switch it off. You can always check your messages the next time you toddle off to the bathroom.


And conversation? Well, there are a couple of points to bear in mind here. Firstly, any conversation that takes place needs to only be on subjects which aren’t controversial. This means work, family or even hobbies. Controversial topics where somebody may be very opinionated is going to be completely off the menu. In addition to that, you will want to make sure that you aren’t dominating the conversation. Everybody should have an equal chance to talk. If your date feels that they aren’t being listened to then it is highly unlikely that you will be able to score an additional date. There are many men out there who absolutely love throwing complements into the conversation, but try to avoid this. If you must complement then only mention it if you truly believe what you are saying and perhaps more importantly, never over complement. You should also maintain eye contact throughout your conversations.


At the end of the evening it is generally expected that paying the bill is the responsibility of the person who handed out the invitation, unless otherwise agreed of course. If you want to follow up on the date then don’t forget to text or email the person the very next day!


Bear these tips in mind and hopefully your first date, and subsequent dates should go off without a hitch!

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